“This is what I do know: You are capable of incredible things—things you have not even begun to imagine or believe in. Infinite possibilities are all around you,waiting to be explored, appreciated, grasped, and celebrated. You are using only a fraction of your potential . . . and that is a beautiful and exciting truth.
Every day you make hundreds of decisions. Some of those decisions help you become the-best-version-of-yourself, and others don’t. Life is a choice. Become a great decision maker and you will master the art of living. With each decision, simply ask: What will help me to become the-best-version-of-myself?
~ Matthew Kelly from The Rhythm of Life
THE BIG IDEAS
1. Everything Is a Choice
2. What Would You Do…
If you knew you could not fail?
That is what Matthew Kelly is committed to helping us become and that is what this book is all about—becoming the-best-version-of-ourselves as we align with the rhythms of life.
The result? Living every day with passion and purpose.
I heard about Matthew from Hal Elrod in his great book, The Morning Miracle. Hal raved about Matthew and shared some extraordinary quotes so I picked up a couple of books.
Very glad I did!
The book is packed with wisdom. (Get it Here!) My copy is, as you’d expect, all marked up. I’m excited to share some of my favorite Big Ideas so let’s jump straight in!
IDEA ONE: EVERYTHING IS A CHOICE
“Everything is a choice.
This is life’s greatest truth and its hardest lesson. It is a great truth because it reminds us of our power. Not power over others, but the often untapped power to be ourselves and to live the life we have imagined.
It is a hard lesson, because it causes us to realize we have chosen the life we are living right now. It is perhaps frightening for us to think that we have chosen to live our life exactly as it is today. Frightening because we may not like what we find when we look at our lives today. But it is also liberating, because we can now begin to choose what we will find when we look at our life in the tomorrows that lie unlived before us.What will you see when you look at your life ten years from now? What will you choose?”
Everything is a choice.
But only every.single.thing.
Moment to moment we CHOOSE our destiny.
What are you choosing?!
We can choose to step forward into growth—expressing what Matthew calls the-best-version-of-yourself, or we can choose to step back into our addictive behaviors which would be, of course, the not-so-great-version-of-yourself.
Moment to moment to moment.
We make a decision.
Will we express the highest version of ourselves? Or not?
That’s Part 1 of this Big Idea.
Part 2: Fast-forward ten years. Look at your life. What do you see?
Is it what you’d like to see?
Imagine THE most amazing possible vision for your future.
Take a moment to bring a picture to mind. What does your life look like?
Now, KNOW that you are creating that destiny every.single.moment.
We are constantly making little decisions. As Matthew tells us, with each decision, simply ask: What will help me to become the-best-version-of-myself?
Then do THAT!
And you will create a life beyond your wildest imagination.
IDEA TWO: WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU KNEW YOU COULDN’T FAIL?
“I will never forget a question I once heard Robert Schuller pose in an interview with Larry King. They were discussing the effects of the fear of failure on our decision-making process, and Schuller offered this question as a guide: “What would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?”
Do not be afraid to dream. Perhaps your fear is of failure. There is no shame in trying to attempt mighty things and failing. The shame is in failing to attempt those things. Michelangelo, the great Renaissance artist and poet, knew the value, power, and need for dreams when he wrote,
“The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.””
What would YOU attempt if you knew you could not fail?
In Daring Greatly , Brené Brown shares this little story: “I took a deep breath and recited my vulnerability prayer as I waited my turn: Give me the courage to show up and let myself be seen. Then, seconds before I was introduced, I thought about a paperweight on my desk that reads, “What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?” I pushed that question out of my head to make room for a new question. As I walked up to the stage, I literally whispered aloud, “What’s worth doing even if I fail?””
What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?
And… What’s worth doing even if you fail?!
Just because we dare to attempt it doesn’t mean we’re sure to succeed. So, what is worth doing EVEN IF you failed?!
Remember: It’s all about the baby steps and baby decisions you make in pursuit of that dream.With each step on your hero’s journey, let this be your guiding question: What will help me to become the-best-version-of-myself?
A quick recap on the fundamental tenets highlighted in this blog include:
- You are making a choice. Every.Single.Moment
- You’re unconsciously creating a legacy, whether you know it or not. What you achieve is determined by what you do or fail to do, day by day and year by year.
- It’s always prudent to stop and blow up the question: Does any of these (whatever it is) help me become the best-version-of-myself?
- Become more daring. Perhaps of late you’ve been too good and too soft to yourself. Toughen up a little bit.There is a balance. You must find the balance. Maybe it’s one part convenience, two parts challenge. Or maybe you are a little softer. Start out three parts convenience, two part challenge.
Whatever balance you choose, choose a little more ‘toughening up.’
Take a cold shower, take the stairs not the elevator, lift something heavy, run around the block, turn off the air conditioning for a day, read a hard book, do a hard math problem, take a martial arts class, do 100 push ups, go a month without buying any fancy clothes, go a week without any sugar.
It won’t hurt you. In fact according to Martin Seligman, the famous happiness psychologist, it will make you a hell of a lot happier.
And as Charlie Munger says it will make you a hell of a lot richer too.
As I conclude, Today am ain’t being too nice as I always am. There is an **infamous** phrase that says that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason is that you’re stupid and make bad decisions. This book will shape your mindset and sharpen your decision making skill sets. Pick it at the earliest opportunity. I **highly** recommend it. If there is, but one book that you read by the end of the next 4 months, let it be this book. Thank me later 🙂 !
As always,Let’s Keep Optimizing and see you at the top where there’s enough room for everyone
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