Excuses Begone! How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits BY DR. WAYNE W. DYER

“It’s been said that old habits die hard, implying that it’s next to impossible to change long-standing thought patterns. Yet the book you hold in your hands was created out of a belief that entrenched ways of thinking and acting can indeed be eradicated. Furthermore, the most effective means for eliminating habitual thoughts is to go to work on the very system that created, and continues to support, these thinking habits. This system is made up of a long list of explanations and defenses that can be summed up in one word: excuses. Hence, the title of this book is really a statement to yourself, as well as to that system of explanations you’ve created. It is my intention that all excuses be . . . gone!”

~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer from Excuses Begone!



1.Excusing vs. Choosing

Time to make the shift!

2. Affirmations

To conquer excuses.

3. Cultivating Awareness

Es muy importante!

4. The Now

It’s wise to be on friendly terms w/it.

5. Self-Actualizers Focus

On what they want.

6. Contemplation

Bowling + manifestation averages.

7. Commitments

Beat pronouncements.

8. Passion

Always trumps excuses!

9. Exquisite Beliefs

Are better than excuses

I just love his simple, inspiring, practical wisdom.

In this book Dr. Dyer walks us through how to finally (!) get rid of disempowering thoughts. It’s packed with goodness.

Here are a handful of my favorite Big Ideas!


“The truth, as I see it, is that everything you think, say, and do is a choice—and you don’t need to think, speak, or act as you’ve done your entire life. When you abandon making choices, you enter the vast world of excuses. Right now, while reading this book, decide to begin choosing instead of excusing. You can instantly decide to reprogram and direct your life toward the level of happiness, success, and health that you prefer.”

The first step in making our excuses be gone?

As Wayne says, we’ve gotta move from excusing to CHOOSING—shifting from a helpless victim to a powerful creator.

We need to see that everything we do, speak and think is a CHOICE.

Little by little. Thought by thought. Word by word. Action by action. We can change our lives.

Shall we? 🙂

“Through discipline, effort, and continual practice, it can also accomplish almost anything you focus your thoughts on.”

~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer


Wayne walks us through the 18 most commonly used excuses. He then gives us 18 affirmations to counteract those excuses.

Check out the book for all the goodies. Here are a few of my favorites:

“1. It will be difficult: I have the ability to accomplish any task I set my mind to with easeand comfort.

  1. It will take a long time: I have infinite patience when it comes to fulfilling my destiny.
  1. It’s too big: I think only about what I can do now. By thinking small, I accomplish great things.
  1. I don’t have the energy: I feel passionately about my life, and this passion fills me with excitement and energy.
  1. I’m too busy: As I unclutter my life, I free myself to answer the callings of my soul.

That is what we call hot sauce.

You got excuses?

What are some affirmations you can use to counter them?!

P.S. Reminds me of some goodness from “Mary Elaine-Jacobsen’s great book”  where she shared a set of criticisms with new responses:

“CRITICISM #8: “Can’t You Just Stick with One Thing?” NEW RESPONSE: “No, Probably Not.”

CRITICISM #10: “Why Don’t You Slow Down?” NEW RESPONSE: “Going Fast Is Normal for Me.”

CRITICISM #1: “Who Do You Think You Are?” NEW RESPONSE: “A Humble Everyday Genius Called to Serve.””


“Cultivating awareness is indeed the preliminary activity in the “I-opening” experience of meeting your authentic self. Living your life oblivious to your thinking patterns and beliefs, day after day, year after year, is a habit that encourages and elevates your ego or false self… The way I see it, if you’re going to practice an Excuses Begone! life, your primary relationship needs to be 100 percent with your authentic self.”

Amen to that.

The first step is to cultivate awareness of our current habits. We need to SEE what we’re doing before we can shift it, eh?

Vernon Howard has a great take on this in The Power of Your Supermind  where he tells us: “Encourage yourself by remembering that any detection of negativity within you is a positive act, not a negative one. Awareness of your weakness and confusion makes you strong because conscious awareness is the bright light that destroys the darkness of negativity. Honest self-observation dissolves pains and pressures that formerly did their dreadful work in the darkness of unawareness. This is so important that I urge you to memorize and reflect upon the following summary: Detection of inner negativity is not a negative act, but a courageously positive act that makes you a new person.”

Detection of negativity is a courageously POSITIVE act.

Here’s to the honest self-observation that allows us to connect to the Highest within ourselves more and more consistently!


“Rather than seeing your present moment as an obstacle, see it as the supreme miracle. “Wayne, this is the only moment you have,” is a sentence I often say to myself to keep me on friendly terms with the now. Think about that: the only moment you have. When you realize the significance of this, you’ll immediately want to shift into a state of awe and gratitude for it, regardless of what is transpiring.”

Newsflash: NOW is the only moment we have.


Reminds me of Marcus Aurelius’ wisdom from Mediations  where he tells us: “Were you to live three thousand years, or even thirty thousand, remember that the sole life which a man can lose is that which he is living at the moment; and furthermore, that he can have no other life except the one he loses… This means that the longest life and the shortest amount to the same thing. For the passing minute is every man’s equal possession, but what has once gone by is not ours.”

Here’s to having a *really* good relationship with this now.

And the next.

And the next.

(On that note, what can you do to improve your relationship with the now? 🙂

“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon—instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”

~ Dale Carnegie


“I learned a long time ago from one of my mentors, Abraham Maslow, that self-actualizing people never use their minds to think about what they don’t wish to attract. They don’t worry about an illness getting worse, an absence of funding, a downturn in the economy affecting them, a negative outcome in a business venture, their children getting in trouble, and so on. Their minds focus on the conditions they wish to produce—then the lucky break, the right people or circumstances, or the synchronistic opportunity somehow presents itself as a result of their contemplation. We all become what we think about, so it’s pretty important to pay attention to those thoughts.”

We go off on the 19 characteristics of a self-actualizing individual as noted on Abraham Maslow’s Motivation and Personality.

The essence of Maslow’s ideas around self-actualizing can be expressed in this iconic passage: “Musicians must make music, artists must paint, poets must write if they are to be ultimately at peace with themselves. What human beings can be, they must be. They must be true to their own nature. This need we may call self-actualization… It refers to man’s desire for self- fulfillment, namely to the tendency for him to become actually in what he is potentially: to become everything one is capable of becoming.”

Guess what?

Self-actualizing individuals do not become what they are destined to become by thinking about all the things going wrong in their lives.

They get their by, as Dyer tells us, “focusing their minds on the conditions they wish to produce.”

Begs the question: What conditions do YOU want to produce?

(Are you focusing your energy on that goodness or on all the things you think are getting in your way? Choose wisely! 🙂


“View the practice of contemplation as action, rather than as passive mental meandering…An hour a day throwing a bowling ball is action that leads to a higher bowling average; a few moments several times a day musing about what you intend to manifest in some area of your life will have precisely the same effect on your manifesting average. Contemplation is action. It’s necessary mind training for the implementation of anything you desire.”

I love that image.

If you practiced bowling every day you’d increase your bowling average.

Got it.


If you practiced contemplating what you want to create in your life, you’d increase your MANIFESTATION average.

Especially when you combine that contemplation with diligent, patient, persistent and playful action, eh? 🙂

So, back to you. Let’s spend a few moments on this.

What do you want to see in your life?

How’s your health?

Your relationships?

Your professional life?

Your financial situation?

Take a few moments and imagine your ideal in each of those domains right now.

Then get in the habit of doing that often while aligning your behaviors to match your ideals! 🙂


“It’s one thing to make a pronouncement in a moment of inspiration about what you intend to manifest in your life or what kind of person you intend to become. It’s quite another thing to make a commitment to holding that vision regardless of what difficulties or obstacles may surface. Holding the vision involves an unwillingness to compromise what you’re visualizing for yourself. It means being willing to suffer through criticism and what appears to be an uncooperative universe.”

Reminds me of some wisdom from  Deepak Chopra’s Seven Spiritual Laws of Superheroes where he tells us: “Superheroes understand that creativity is not an impulse, but a process.”

It’s REALLY easy to get all geeked up about something for a day or a week or a month.

It’s an entirely different thing to show up day-in-and-day-out bringing that seed of an idea to fruition.

All the great teachers talk about this.

Eknath Easwaran puts it this way in Conquest of Mind : “In Sanskrit we have a word which means “heroes at the beginning”: people who take up a job with a fanfare of trumpets but soon find that their enthusiasm has tiptoed down the back stair. Those who go far in meditation are the ones who keep on plugging. They may not be very spectacular; they may never hear a trumpet. But they keep on trying day in and day out, giving their best in every situation and relationship, never giving up. Such people are bound to reach their goal.”

Here’s to committing to holding the vision regardless of what difficulties or obstacles may surface!!

P.S. As you do that, keep this wisdom from Russell Simmons (on Do You!) in mind as well: “Focus on your vision and keep going until you hit the finish line. Don’t be one of the people who believe in their vision at first but then give up. See it through, no matter how long it takes. Understand that obstacles are just part of the game. Whatever you imagine, you can achieve. Once you realize this truth, no one is going to be able to stop you.”

P.P.S. To what areas of your life do you need to apply this mojo?


“Memorize these four words: passion always trumps excuses! However, keep in mind that when I use the word passion, I’m not referring to the romantic notions that this concept conjures. Instead, I’m equating it to a vigorous kind of enthusiasm that you feel deep within you and that isn’t easy to explain or define. This kind of passion propels you in a direction that seems motivated by a force beyond your control. It’s the inner excitement of being on the right path, doing what feels good to you and what you know you are meant to do. It’s my contention that the mere presence of passion within you—and the enthusiasm that comes with it—is all you need to fulfill your dreams. And let’s take a brief look at the word enthusiasm. As the novelist and woman of letters Madame de Stael noted in 1810: “The sense of this word among the Greeks affords the noblest definition of it; enthusiasm signifies God in us.””

This is awesome.

 I just LOVE the idea of a “vigorous kind of enthusiasm” that drives us to fulfill our dreams.

How do we cultivate this kind of vigorous enthusiasm?

Glad you should ask.

“By all means, love your family (and everyone else on this planet). Treasure all of your relationships, but first and foremost make your relationship to your highest self your priority.”

~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Dyer tells us: “The best way to keep your passion alive is to make your number one relationship in the world be that between you and your Source of being. Stay in a state of wonderment and bewilderment over everything and everyone you encounter. Go through life being continuously grateful and appreciative—give thanks for all of nature and the multitude of miracles you see appearing before your eyes each and every day. This is a daily practice for me, and it’s the most prominent factor I can identify for keeping my zest for life alive and well.”

Love it.

I like to think of it this way: My #1 job is to do the things that help me plug into the Divine within

  1. As I do that, I naturally shine with a radiant enthusiasm.

Paul Ray puts it this way in The Highest Goal : “The highest goal is simply to be in this experience of connection or truth (no matter how you refer to it) all the time. That remains a goal, of course, because this is something you spend a lifetime working toward rather than attaining. But your commitment motivates, inspires and guides your journey, and gives you more and more time in this state of connection.”

What about you?

Are you rockin’ the fundamentals that help you stay plugged in?

Sweet! 🙂


“Without these excuses, what would life look like? Here again, you’d bask in the exquisite belief that you possess all of the physical and intellectual abilities you could ever need. Your life would flow naturally from a position of supreme confidence in yourself and all of your God-given, natural abilities. You’d take risks and be capable of trying anything, content with whatever results were to ensue. You’d exude courage because you’d be unable to manufacture doubtful thoughts that manifested as excuses. You’d never compare yourself to others or evaluate your abilities on the basis of what others do—how you measure up to the performance levels of others would have no bearing on you or what you attempt. You’d know that God doesn’t make mistakes,so whatever levels of personal strength and intellectual proficiency you possess are absolutely perfect. In short, you’d be content, grateful for who you are and all that you’d been given, in both the physical and perceptual realms.”

I’ll take it!

You? 🙂

Here’s to making our EXCUSES BEGONE! as we go out and joyfully rock this precious little life of ours!


About the Author of “Excuses Begone”


II wayne-dyer

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He is the author of more than 30 books, has created numerous audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows. Wayne holds a doctorate in educational counseling from Wayne State University and was an associate professor at St. John’s University in New York. (from Amazon)

About the Author of This Note



Vincent Wambua is a lover of wisdom (aka a “Philosopher”) and a passionate student of life who’s committed to inspiring and empowering millions of people to live their greatest lives as he studies, embodies and shares the universal truths of optimal living. He harts his job.


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“You are the Placebo” by Dr. Joe Dispenza

Can we make ourselves the Placebo and create the change that we want? That the central tenet of this life strategy raw gem. Basically, when people think that a pill or an injection or a surgery is going to be beneficial to them, they experience the benefits they thought they’re going to get. In this regard,a placebo is always as effective as the actual pill. If then, a placebo can induce a healing effect without actually taking the actual drug, injection or so, can we make ourselves the placebo? I adore raw undistilled knowledge. I adore books which whisper chunks of life strategies without taking turns. This week I’m sharing key concepts that you may need to refer to for the rest of your life. Plain awesomeness, no sugar coating, no hide-and-seek games, no additives or flavor, just pure truth–and truth indeed that you are the Placebo. 




1. The Epigenetic Engineer.

 Thats what we need to become. 


To become the placebo?

3. To Become our optimal selves

We need to Ride on Brain waves 🙂

 Basically this was a great read. I’ve read this book 4 times already and I’m not yet done. I’m wanna hang in there for a while, synthesizing, analyzing and diffusing these concepts 101.  Lots of awesomeness in here. So let’s jump straight in!



“The word epigenetics literally means “above the genes.” It refers to the control of genes not from within the DNA itself but from messages coming from outside the cell—in other words, from the environment…

Epigenetics teaches that we, indeed, are not doomed by our genes and that a change in human consciousness can produce physical changes, both in structure and function, in the human body. We can modify our genetic destiny by turning on the genes we want and turning off the ones we don’t want through working with the various factors in the environment that program our genes. Some of those signals come from within the body, such as feelings and thoughts, while others come from the body’s response to the external environment, such as pollution or sunlight…

Epigenetics suggests that even though our DNA code never changes, thousands of combinations, sequences, and patterned variations in a single gene are possible (just as thousands of combinations, sequences, and patterns of neural networks are possible in the brain).”

—Joe Dispenza from “You are The Placebo”


The word literally means “above the genes.”

Truly extraordinary stuff.

Until very recently, scientists believed that our genetic code was fixed. We now know that, although the DNA code itself never changes, our thoughts and behaviors and environment can “turn on” or “turn off” different sequences in the code—resulting in extraordinarily different EXPRESSIONS of that genetic code.

The most powerful way to see this simple fact in action is to look at genetically identical twins later in life. If their genetic code PREDETERMINED outcomes, the twins should look identical at 90 years old like they did at 9 days old, right? They should suffer from the same illnesses, etc.

But that’s not the case. Research reveals again and again that identical twins can have the exact same genetic code, but very different outcomes.

Why? Because they made different lifestyle decisions throughout their lives. The little things like what they ate, what they thought and what they did accumulated. Decades and decades of tiny little (epigenetic) tweaks to their genes led to dramatically different results.

Now, what’s really cool is that you don’t need to wait decades to see the results.

Research unequivocally shows that we can change our genetic expression in a matter of months (and even after just one session of meditation). (<—That’s awesome.)

This is at the heart of how you are, in fact, the placebo.

By KNOWING that you can change your life and underlying neuronal structure and genetic expression while engaging in new thoughts, behaviors and emotions, you can dramatically change your life.

Joe puts it beautifully: “Now you can understand that whether it’s joyful or stressful, with every thought you think, every emotion you feel, and every event you experience, you’re acting as an epigenetic engineer of your own cells. You control your destiny.”

Here’s to standing above our genes and engineering their optimization!

******************************To be continued****************************

As always,Let’s Keep Optimizing and see you at the top where there’s enough room for everyone 🙂

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“The Achievement Habit” by Bernard Roth

Did you know that achievement can be learnt? As Bernie Roth Explains, achievement is a muscle. And once you learn how to flex it, you’ll be able to meet life challenges and meet your goals. In this regard, haven’t you noted that the 1st key to success is getting started? I just like the Nike promo pick up line–just do it! So for the last few days I’ve been hooked up with getting up, recollecting myself and getting started on few aspects of life. Among those encompassed a wonderful great read authored by Bernard Roth entitled“The Achievement Habit”The author of this incredible book has been a Stanford University engineering professor for over 5o years. This book is all about applying design thinking to the most important design projects of your life. He expounds on how to effectively optimize our lives…actualize our potential…and make achievement a habit.

In this book, Roth shares life strategies that almost knocked my socks off. It is evident that there’s distinct difference between trying and doing, which remains the central objective of the book. The extremities of how deploying resiliency to reinforce what you do rather than what you accomplish sparks an astounding move for anyone willing to get started and transcend from zero to hero. 

In this blog, I’ll share my major key Ideas. Enjoy!



1.  Odd Schmodds


2. Do V.s Try

Start doing!

3. The Final Countdown

 What picture will it portray about you?

4.Design Thinking

Activate it!

5. Being The Cause

You can if you think you can

I honestly wish I read this book when I was 10 but thank God I finally did.Lots of awesomeness in here. So let’s jump straight in!


“Statistics show you trends, they can’t predict your life.

Likewise, consider that the odds have always been against greatness. If one were to decide on a career path just by the odds of financial success, we would have no movie stars, authors, poets, or musicians. The odds of any one person becoming a professional, self-supporting musician are very low—and yet turn on the radio and you hear hundreds of them. The odds were against the Beatles, Elvis, and the Grateful Dead, too. They could have been ‘scientific’ about the whole thing and chosen more reasonable career paths, and what a loss for the world that would have been!

If you succeed, the odds are then meaningless. Any path may have a 2 percent success rate, yet if you’re in that 2 percent, there’s a 100 percent chance of success for you. The long shots are often the most rewarding.

—Bernard Roth from The Achievement Habit”


That’s a passage from the chapter “Doing Is Everything.”

It precedes a section called “The Gift of Failure” where Bernie tells us about the fact that Oprah was FIRED from her first job as a television anchor (hah!), Dr. Seuss’s first book was rejected dozens of times (it only got published because a friend decided to publish it himself!), and, of course, Edison failed countless times in pursuit of a commercially viable light bulb.

As Bernie tells us: “Almost without exception, people who have done great things have also experienced great failures.”

But you. (<— I’m talking to you and the guy in my mirror. 🙂

You think you need to achieve success without even the slightest failure.


Not gonna happen.

We come back to this idea again and again. Let’s get it. When we have a bias to action and DO things, we’re going to fall short of our goals. And, we need to know that’s awesome.

Speaking of awesome, here’s how Tony Horton puts it in The Big Picture:There’s nothing wrong with failing. In fact, failure needs a new name. ‘Failure’ should be renamed ‘awesome.’ Everyone loves awesome… Most folks think of failure as the opposite of success, but I beg to differ.

It’s like what Winston Churchill said: Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Failure and success are Siamese twins; they don’t exist without each other. There’s no way around it. The problem with the word ‘failure’ is that it connotes that you’re a loser—and losers don’t succeed or win or get the girl (or guy or pie or pot of gold or whatever it is you want to get). As a result, many people would rather play it safe, not take chances, not explore, and never, ever stick their neck out to actually try.”

Any failures you need to reframe as awesomes?

Now a good time to do that?

P.S. I love the way Bernie frames the odds of success. If you’re in that 2% who wind up succeeding, your chance of success is 100 percent. Hah. That’s fantastic.

Reminds me of my Grandfather’s wisdom to me 20 years ago when I was disheartened by the fact that only one out of hundreds of people would achieve a certain goal I found appealing at the time.“Sounds like great odds,” he said. “How many of you are there?”

Here’s to having a clear sense of what we *really* want, believing in our ability to make it happen and taking the smart, massive action in pursuit of that cherished goal.


Roth shares that there’s a distinct difference between doing and trying. The concept here is that its always far prudent to favor action over thinking…rather than trying, do it. The catch here is that most people always weighed down by obstacles. They gain momentum, enthusiasm,and confidence… then when few obstacles show up, their determination wanes and melts away. Always remember that obstacles are results of an experiment called life. I once shared in my blog post“The Lab of Life” that “We are all experimenters in the lab of life…and that “all life is experiment, the more experiments the better.”

Here is a caption: 

“We are all experimenters in the lab of life,

Whether it’s a joy ride or a strife,

It’s all fun since experiments never fail!

We’re all safe in the sail,

Since it’s all about collecting data,

So  let’s join the ride and test the lab of life”

The summary here is this: Obstacles are just mere data that you obtain on your way to your ultimate goal. Always remember that when you make 100% commitment, you’re not laid down by obstacles. 

The trick is simple, either do it or don’t. There’s literally nothing like “trying.” Don’t try doing, simply do it. It’s time to move from trying to doing it. 


In this concept, Roth shares the idea that our lives are going to end some day…and the final countdown is so unpredictable. It maybe in few hours time..or maybe tomorrow…or next week or next year. Always remember that tomorrow is an additional day to that countdown. The big question here is this: suppose you had only 10 more days or 10 more hours to live…what would you do–differently–to define yourself? It’s unfortunate that it’s a mystery when you or I or anyone else may take a french leave from the universe for instance. Whats the point? Now is the time to become the person you aspire to be. We don’t know when the final countdown is going to come, that’s intricacy. You better stay guarded with your dreams completed when that fateful moment dawns.

Roth further affirms that one sure thing we know about tomorrow is that you’ll be one day closer to that final countdown. When we come to terms with this, this can catalyze us to do the things we want to do NOW…in order to optimize, actualize and achieve. I think Roth was quite elaborate. (Moment of Silence).

As I wind up, I need to affirm the Odds Schmodds concept. Always remember that all great things were achieved against the odds. And if all you did was to live our life based on what it has the best odds of success–if everybody did that–we’d literally never have achieved anything great. We’d have no movie stars or musicians and so forth. 

We need to have a good relationship with our odds…and if you’re in the 2% that can can succeed (as quoted in Idea 1),then your chances of success are 100% 


There are 5 key tenets to design thinking.

  1. Empathize– This is where it starts. When you design, you’re not primarily doing it for yourself. You’re doing it with other peoples needs and desires in mind. start focusing on the person/client that you are serving. Manufacture ways to serve them better. Help them get better each day. Empathize, 1st. Don’t worry about the money, let service precede and money will surely flow in. 
  2. Define the Problem-narrow down to the cause of the problem at hand. Just dive in with an open mind, no criticism or opinions. Seek to understand before you are understood. 
  3. Ideatecreate ideas to solve the problem identified in step 2 above. 
  4. Prototype Here, we place the concept of being perfect aside. In summary, we embrace failure and master the process. We ship, find the appropriate type of prototype we need, then proceed to step 5. 
  5. Test-here, we cultivate self awareness by asking ourselves, “what do I really want to see or experience?”

It’s all about cultivating the achievement habit. Cultivate the flow from step 1 to 5 from designing your thinking and never limit yourself.


I really enjoyed this book. Some books have a great message but are a chore to read. Some are easy reads but don’t have great content. This book has both.

There were so many great messages, like reasons are often just excuses that keep us from doing the things we really want to do. There are also tips on how to get unstuck – the author explains that you have to change the way you think about a problem – and then he tells you how to do that using “design thinking.” He also provides 22 creative strategies to use when you’re stuck.

In each chapter, he includes a section called “Your Turn” where he provides exercises you can do to apply what you’ve just read. I didn’t do them all, but I did the ones in the areas where I most needed help and found them very effective.

A few quotes from the book I particularly liked:

“You can make a decision right now to see yourself differently, and then to become different.” This was a good reminder to me that the past does not have to equal the future. If there’s an area we’d like to change, we can.


“Nothing is what you think it is.” His point was that WE give things their meaning.


“It’s not about me.” This thought comes in handy when we find ourselves thinking that other people’s actions are related to what we did or did not do. Their actions are usually about them & what’s going on in their lives, not us.

Loved the book!

decision to be different

“There’s always a degree of inelasticity in the edge of an accomplished target… a lustre of unpolished competence… unearthed creativity or unveiled drama.. all which can be outstretched to blend a masterpiece”
–Vincent Wambua


About the Author of “The Achievement Habit”

 Bernard Roth


Roth is one of the founders of the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford (the d.school) and is active in its development: currently, he serves as Academic Director. His design interests include organizing and presenting workshops on creativity, group interactions, and the problem solving process. Formerly he researched the kinematics, dynamics, control, and design of computer controlled mechanical devices. In kinematics, he studied the mathematical theory of rigid body motions and its application to the design of machines (from https://profiles.stanford.edu/bernard-roth ).

About the Author of This Note



Vincent Wambua is a lover of wisdom (aka a “Philosopher”) and a passionate student of life who’s committed to inspiring and empowering millions of people to live their greatest lives as he studies, embodies and shares the universal truths of optimal living. He harts his job.


As always,Let’s Keep Optimizing and see you at the top where there’s enough room for everyone 🙂

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“Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final” By Robert H. Schuller (Part II)

Recently I read the Book “Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final” By Robert H. Schuller. Last week I walked you through the tenets the book covers right from the prologue in regards to defining success. This weeks’ blog post picks the proceeds from  the Ten Levels in the Evolution Phase of a Dream. Enjoy! 🙂 

“Vast majority of high achievers made it because they wanted to! A passionate desire to achieve was a consuming drive in their life.”

~Robert H. Schuller



1. Success or Failure

Define it!

2. The Ten Levels in the Evolution Phase of a Dream

Enjoy the process!

3. The four Tenets of Activating A Dream

Get involved!

4. 3 key steps in eradicating impossibility

Believe you can!

5. The Force that sets you free to Succeed

Seek it!

“Success is an evolution, not an overnight  achievement; a journey, not a destination; an unending project, never a single, simple accomplishment that stands alone unrelated to the past and disconnected from the future. Success is a never-ending process of going through good times and bad, pleasure and pain, ups and downs, ins ad outs!”

-Robert Schuller – From “Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final”

Thats huge! Success is an evolution. The entire chapter two delves into the ten levels in the evolution of a dream where Schuller explores various approaches upon which the reader can dream their way to unending success.  I’m excited to share a few of my favorites so let’s jump straight in!

IDEA TWO: The Ten Levels in the Evolution Phase of a Dream

“I have observed that the successful achievement of a dream from conception to accomplishment evolves from level One Through Level Ten”

Level One: The Dream actually begins in the Mind of God

In this regard, Schuller shares his story after graduation and how he begin his ministry in Orange County, California. He ends the storyline by affirming that dreams that capture our imaginations and inspire our wills begin in the mind of God.

Level Two: God Matches His Dream to the Dreamer

The dreamer must be someone who will love the dream, even though it will make its dramatic entrance into that finite human mind as an awesome, impossible idea! In summary, the divine dream is delegated to a dedicated doer!

Level Third: The Dream Takes on a Life of Its Own

The dream now enters its gestation period. The dreamer becomes pregnant with what will become a new life. A beautiful new creation! God has given the dream a life of its own, like a fertilized seed which develops through many stages to become a human being about to be born. The success cycle is on its way!

Notice when success started. It had its beautiful beginning when the dreamer accepted the dream, when a human being welcomed the uninvited inspiring idea and embraced it as is own private possession! Success begins once we start to believe in the beautiful dream that God sends us. 

In summary: once a dream has been embraced by a fertile, imaginative, dynamic mind of a possibility thinker, in that very moment something new has come into existence!

Level Four: God Times the Evolutionary Process

The fourth dimension of a dream-in process is timing. Sometimes the gestation period is incredibly swift. More often it is geared to a schedule designed to teach the dreamer patience. 

In this context, Schuller poses a question: What is the single quality that more than any other identifies those who succeed? It is patience. Schuller further points out that  Impatient dreamers will look for painless shortcuts and cheap discounts on the price of success! And failing to spot the expedient paths, unknowingly, impatient dreamers will too often, too easily and too painfully turn away from the divine dream. Later, when it is too late, they will discover that in choosing the painless, easy road they were in fact going down a primrose path to boredom, shame, emptiness, failure, poverty. If only they had not been afraid of the discipline that the dream demanded! 

In summary: Sniff the times…enjoy the process…and take advantage of any availed opportunities!

Level Five: Surprising support comes from unexpected Sources

The dream which has begun in the mind of God and is deposited in the mind of a possibility thinker suddenly begins to accrue support from sources, centers and souls that the dreamer never knew before. The dream, like a mighty majestic magnet, begins to attract help from persona who are motivated to help inspiring dreamers achieve success. The persons with the right strengths, skills, and spheres of influence come from out of the woodwork to move the dream forward, onward, and upward!

At this stage of the dream God begins to build a team around it. People, power, and positive pressures will begin to move the idea from an impossibility to a possibility. We begin to witness the enormous mountain-moving energy that is generated when believing minds join to make a miracle happen.

Level Six: Temporary Setbacks and Difficulties Create Frustration.

By this point you were probably expecting final victory! Crowning achievement! Solid Success! Hold on–you’re not there–yet!

Carefully planned strategies may fail. All options may seem to have been used up. Has the dreamer failed? Not yet–he can still try again and again..till a breakthrough shows up! Failure is never final. Success does not need to end at this dismal moment of discouragement. It was in such a moment that Schuller writes, “when you think you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this: You haven’t.”

Level Seven: The Dream Comes True!

Stunning success is bestowed upon your possibility thinking, your patience, and your pain! You have arrived. The business is established. The career is firmly grounded. Now be prepared for surprises–and disappointments! Honors as well as hurts will come unsought and uninvited. At this level, it is up to you to apply prudence, humility and cautious vigilance to maneuver through any disappointments. This is not a ticket to boast in pride. It is a chance to utilize, mobilize and focus as a way of preparing for the next level. 

Level Eight: The Dreamer Has Been Shaped by the Dream.

Schuller points out various ways the dreamer is modeled by the dream. In summary, when you choose the dream, the dream will decide your destiny. The size of the  dream will determine how big a person you will become. 

Level Nine: The Dream keeps growing!

In this phase, the curtains opens to give a vision of tomorrow. The dreamer learns that great dreams of great dreamers are never fulfilled–they are transcended! Hence, they tend to propagate themselves. Success multiplies. It is never ending!

Having made the dream come true, you discover that success is not an end in itself, but a positioning in power for greater accomplishments and loftier achievements. This is the time to stop and reappraise your power. Review your assets. Subtract your liabilities from your assets and find out what your net worth is today—in financial terms.

You may be astounded by your strength. You have a power base for leverage against mountains that you never would have tacked before. You are in a tremendously powerful position to dream greater dreams. In addition, the people whom you have helped along the way will not let you quit. So be prepared for the tenth and final level of dreaming.

Level Ten: The Dreamer Enters the Danger Zone 

This is the perilous time. The dreamer is now in danger of not keeping up with a fast-growing,  forward-looking dream. The dream–like a growing child–is in danger of rushing ahead of him–as the scholar outruns the master, as the athlete outruns the trainer. The dream now is taking command. And meanwhile the dreamer wants to rest, retire–at least take a sabbatical.

When you reach Level Ten–BEWARE! TAKE CARE! And accept a new DARE! I dare you to start dreaming again!

Success ought to take proceeds through introducing new possibilities–sometimes in the form of new problems. Failure must never be final! Try again!

My Two Cents

Perhaps you’re in the process of maturing a dream, a school or a lifetime project, a calling or divine vision that you’ve set. Challenges ought to reinforce your faith to develop a conviction that winning is possible. Hence, Complaining, pointing fingers and giving up is out of the question. Remember this is your journey and success is not to the swift. Don’t try to compete with nobody because your success falls within the confines of fulfilling your purpose in life–why you were born. So Get back up and continue with the race that God told you to run!

The ten levels in the evolution of a dream reminds me of Joseph Campbells’ “The Hero With a Thousand Faces (check its review analysis updates soon). In this book, Joseph Campbell compares the philosophies and mythic stories of the whole world and he unravels that there is one story within all the stories that you can relate to regardless of your residence, color, size or gender–and he called it The Heroes Journey. The book quotes most of the discussed tenets within the  evolution of a dream where one faces various tests, magical helpers come along, at times the hero comes to a crisis point, meets a goal…and then there is a return to tell the story. 

Since this blog is not about mythology and Joseph Campbells’ analogies, I’ll pause and check on that soon. Hope you enjoyed! And have an awesome week! 



About the Author of “Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final”

Robert H. Schuller


Robert Harold Schuller (September 16, 1926 – April 2, 2015) was an American Christian televangelist, pastor, motivational speaker, and author.

About the Author of This Note


Vincent Wambua is a lover of wisdom (aka a “Philosopher”) and a passionate student of life who’s committed to inspiring and empowering millions of people to live their greatest lives as he studies, embodies and shares the universal truths of optimal living. He harts his job.


As always,Let’s Keep Optimizing and see you at the top where there’s enough room for everyone 🙂

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“Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final” By Robert H. Schuller

It’s both rewarding and exhilarating to venture in a soul searching read. Robert Schuller is breathing life to anyone cowering from fear of failure. Failure is the beast that forces our best synergies to be mobilized for the best part. Failure is a lulling baby that unfolds what could be– after all is lost. We often think that Failure is the worst bug that can transcend in our midst when we least expect it. I beg to disagree. As I take off from the prologue of this 21st century classical read, a new awakening brushes off my consciousness and a new rebirth converges within me.  This book has vast practical insights on how you can effectively replace, upgrade or revert your current ignition velocity and speed towards your ideals. Enjoy!

“It all begins when you decide you want to succeed”

           -Robert H. Schuller



1. Success or Failure

Define it!

2. The Ten Levels in the Evolution Phase of a Dream

Enjoy the process!

3. The four Tenets of Activating A Dream

Get involved!

4. 3 key steps in eradicating impossibility

Believe you can!

5. The Force that sets you free to Succeed

Seek it!

“Success–let’s not knock it; lets not block it; let’s UNLOCK it! But first let’s understand what success/failure is all about. Success or Failure is more than winning or losing because success is a  process. It’s more than what you read on the scorecard. Success and failure don’t stop when the game ends and the crowd goes home. For real success is in accepting your God- given opportunities and giving your divinely – inspired goals 110% of your best effort!”

-Robert Schuller – From “Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final”

Love that! Success and failure don’t stop when the game ends and the crowd goes home. For real success is is accepting your God- given opportunities and giving your divinely – inspired goals 110% of your best effort!

First things first- this book is a multidimensional arena of ingenious awesomeness! The core extrapolation of real life case studies and the vast soul searching self help tasks that Schuller poses to the reader makes it undoubtedly a classical life strategy gem that you may never wish to miss! As is the case with all great books, this one is packed with Big Ideas. I’m excited to share a few of my favorites so let’s jump straight in!

IDEA ONE: Success or FailureDefine it!

What is true success? Schuller, among vast other life strategists has extrapolated this aspect and highlighted variant propositions on this edge. Though various chronicles have been knitted through the ages around this whirlwind, the awesomeness in this debate seems to distill to a conglomeration of a converging spectrum which concurs that success is tied to a parabolical prospect which is huge than our daily pursuits.

Schuller points out that success has been misunderstood. 

So what then Is success?

Schuller aptly summarizes it in his 1st chapter. He affirms and I quote “Success is noblest when it leaves you with the self-respect that you have been a good steward of the life, liberties, possibilities, and opportunities that God offered to you..Success is building your own self-respect by affirming the dignity of your fellow human beings”

Schuller reminds me of Dr. Myles Munroe assertions in his book “Understanding your potential” where he points out that “success is the potential & destiny of all created things. Hence, success is the completion and the fulfillment of the original intend or purpose for your existence”

As per the proponents of both Shuller and Munroe, Success is not making lots of money. Success is not having a huge pretty house and a car –by a lake. Success is not having a lot of friends and thousands of accolades and lots of planks on the wall . Success is really pretty simple: its you discovering your purpose and completing it before you die. In other words, Success must be measured by why you were created. Success is therefore a purpose fulfilled. 

Success for the next 11 months is going to be you making another step towards fulfilling your purpose in life- why you were born.

So whats the true measure of success?

Success is not measured by what you have done compared to what others have done. This is exclusively significant since most of the time we compete with other people and because we do better than them we think we are successful. Success is hence not outwitting or outclassing other people. You can always find someone lesser than you– and hence converge to think you are successful. Therefore success cannot be measured by what you have done compared to what others have done. True success must be measured by what you have done compared to what you should or could have done. In other words the only parameter which can deduce how successful you are is you and God.

P.S: Success is not measured on how you compare with other people but on what you’re capable of doing yourself

And thats what 2016 is all about. 2016 Is not about you trying to beat other people to the punch. As a matter of fact, when you read the bible, the scriptures affirm that the race in Gods plan is not to the swift. You don’t come first because you’re ahead. The race is to those who endure to the end and finish what they started. That’s success. Purpose therefore is the key to success, finding your purpose and fulfilling it. 

If that is what success is all about, then what is real failure?

According to Schuller,real failure is:

  • Failing personally, not professionally!
  • Yielding to cowardice in the face of an urgent but risky venture!
  • Retreating from a high calling to a noble duty because you fear imperfection in the execution of that duty.
  • Protecting your pride from a possibly embarrassing professional failure rathert than promoting wonderful and worthy cause.
  • Demoting faith from the leadership of your life and promoting fear to a position of power.

Despite the aforementioned decorations, If you are, or have ever been, a failure, it never needs to be final!You can reverse your fortune and your future by changing your thinking!

Yes, this is success: To dare to dream the impossible dream with God and to give God a chance to make this dream come true!

Isn’t success fantastic? YES! And it’s yours to choose!

Choose it! Seek it! For success is Finding a need and filling it!Finding  hurt and healing it! Finding a problem and solving it!

~Success is never ending and failure is never final.

********To be Continued**************


“The only precious stone left to mine within the hearts of humanity is to nurture the ability to see the Truth in a world where we have lost the sight of that in many ways”

–Vincent Wambua


About the Author of “Success Is Never Ending-Failure is Never Final”

Robert H. Schuller


Robert Harold Schuller (September 16, 1926 – April 2, 2015) was an American Christian televangelist, pastor, motivational speaker, and author.

About the Author of This Note


Vincent Wambua is a lover of wisdom (aka a “Philosopher”) and a passionate student of life who’s committed to inspiring and empowering millions of people to live their greatest lives as he studies, embodies and shares the universal truths of optimal living. He harts his job.


As always,Let’s Keep Optimizing and see you at the top where there’s enough room for everyone 🙂

Connect To Me, I’m quite Social!


Follow me on:Twitter 

*If you are looking for poetry and my life empowerment program materials  click, Here


Why Your Life Sucks: And what you can do about it. By Alan Cohen

Today I feel super generous, thrilled and excited to share mind blowing success skills that I picked from one of my best reads this year :“Why your Life Sucks.” I had been undergoing wild soul ranging moments for the past few weeks and took an initiative of seeking a concrete solution which I could both apply succinctly and rapidly so as to rectify and place into alignment few aspects which were almost turning bizarre. Today I share with you some of those key nuggets which saved my day. Well, at time life can dare suck! This book has simple practical ideas on how you can effectively circumnavigate your life despite the looming springboards of irky moments. Enjoy!

why your life sucks


1. The 10 Reasons

Why your life might suck.

2. Radio station “KNOW”

Tune in!

3. Gold Fish & Bonzi Trees

And you.

4. Your Thought Bouncer

Put him to work.

5. Turn on the Light

And the darkness disappears.

6. Two Lawyers in Your Head

Pay one more.

7. The Secret of Genius

Is focus.

8. Follow Your Spirit

And let results be by-products.

9. Getting Approval

Start with yourself.

10. Nourish Your Spirit

It’s super important.

11. Success

There’s only one true measure.

“When it comes to your life sucking, you can’t just walk away from it. You can’t just put your life aside and go on to something else that feels better. When your life sucks, that’s serious. It’s a big wake-up call. It’s an invitation to do something different. Not more of the same. If coins keep falling out of a hole in your pocket, the answer is not to go out and get a second job. The answer is to plug the hole. This book will help you find and patch any leaks in your system. It is honest and practical, with teeth. … If your life is getting in your face, you might want to know why, so you can do something about it before it gets worse. As you face and plug each hole, you will transform every challenge into a gift. Together we can turn tragedy into triumph and make it all a win.”

~ Alan Cohen from Why Your Life Sucks

First things first: Alan Cohen is hilarious. I have no idea why it took me so long to discover his work but I’m glad I did. In addition to being ridiculously, laugh-out-loud and read-it-to-my-best friend funny, Cohen is also brilliant and wise. He’s a remarkable story teller and this little book is packed with Big Ideas on a) Why your life may suck; and, b) What you can do about it. I literally Kindle-highlighted nearly the whole thing so let’s jump in and explore some of my favorite Ideas on how to unsuck our lives, shall we.? 🙂

“The only thing harder than waking up is staying asleep in a nightmare. Let’s do it. It’s time.”

~ Alan Cohen


  1. “You give your power away.
  2. You expect it to suck.
  3. You get fooled by appearances.
  4. You waste energy on things that suck.
  5. You keep trying to prove yourself.
  6. You say yes when you mean no.
  7. You think you have to do it all yourself.
  8. You try to fix other people.
  9. You starve your soul.
  10. You forgot to enjoy the ride.”

Those are the 10 reasons your life might suck. 🙂

The book has a chapter for each of those 10 reasons where Cohen establishes why your life would suck if you engaged in one of those activities and how you can change it!


“Imagine a radio station that we’ll call KNOW broadcasting sound advice from somewhere deep inside you 24 hours a day. Then imagine you have a tuner capable of receiving its signal. If you set your tuner to the right frequency, you hear the broadcast and pick up vital information. If your dial is set elsewhere, you miss the message.”

Time to tune in to KNOW, yo! 🙂

So, Cohen profiles ten reasons why our lives might suck and the #1 reason is because we don’t trust ourselves.

We talk about this all the time. Ralph Waldo Emerson comes to mind here (see Notes“here”). He wrote an entire essay on the importance of trusting ourselves (check out Self-Reliance!) and says this about it: “Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.” So… TRUST YOURSELF!!


“We have all been hypnotized into thinking that we are smaller than we are. Just as an undersized flowerpot keeps a mighty tree root-bound or a little fishbowl keeps goldfish tiny, we have adapted, adjusted, and accommodated to a Lilliputian life. But place the same tree in an open field or the fish in a lake, and they will grow to hundreds of times their size. Unlike the tree or goldfish, you are not dependent on someone else to move you. You have the power to move yourself. You can step into a broader domain and grow to your full potential.”

Did you know that goldfish are kept tiny because of their little bowl?! And that if we let them swim in a natural size lake they’d grow to 100+ times that little size?!


And same with bonzi trees, eh? Restrict the roots by putting it in a tiny pot and you’ll get a tiny tree. Put that same tree in a forest and let its roots stretch out and voila! We’ve got a ginormous tree.


If we buy into the hypnosis of our limited potential, we’ll be stunted little beings. If, however, we can plant ourselves in the spaciousness of our vast potential, watch out!! 🙂


“Your real enemies are the self-defeating thoughts, paltry expectations, and beliefs that you must live at less than full throttle. You will experience as much pain as you are willing to accept. You do have control over how much you hurt. Pain happens; suffering is optional. You can choose thoughts that bring you relief rather than imprisonment. To find your freedom, stand at the doorway of your mind and monitor your thoughts. Notice which ones lift you and which ones drag you down. Then, like a bouncer at an exclusive party, admit only those on the invitation list and send the others back where they came from. Fate is not a net cast over you by capricious fortune; it is a garden you cultivate by the thoughts you attend to. Shift your attention and you will shift your life.”

LOVE that image of a bouncer at the doorway of your mind!

How AWESOME is that? 🙂

We talk about this All. The. Time.

For good reason: It’s the key to your happiness.

So, get your big bad bouncer self rockin’ that velvet thought rope, will ya?! Challenge your negative thoughts. Don’t let them crash your party!


“To be a master, act like one. Assuming greatness is not phony; unworthiness is the imposter. You may have played small for a long time and fallen prey to the hallucination, “I can’t.” But behind every “can’t” is a “won’t.” When you reach the chalk circle others have drawn around you, keep walking. The moment you look a monster in the eye and demand, “Show me what you really are,” the beast will shapeshift into an ally. Emerson proclaimed, “Do the thing you fear,and the death of fear is certain.” When dark and light are placed in the same room, light always wins. And because your nature is light, you will triumph over every limit you have learned.”

Ahhhh… So much goodness here.

First, some Walter Russell goodness from The Man Who Tapped the Secrets of the Universe: “I believe that every man has consummate genius within him. Some appear to have it more than others only because they are aware of it more than others are, and the awareness or unawareness of it is what makes each one of them into masters or holds them down to mediocrity. I believe that mediocrity is self-inflicted and that genius is self-bestowed.”

Mediocrity is self-inflicted and genius is self-bestowed. That’s strong. 🙂

And on to the “acting as if” mojo. As I’ve mentioned before, I used to have an allergy to it but Wayne Dyer won me over in his great book Real Magic. Imagine the greatest version of yourself—as a creator, husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend, parent, colleague, whatever.

How would that most enlightened version of yourself act on a day-to-day basis?


And when you’re ever wondering what the right thing to do would be, check in on your ideal self and ask him/her. Then act as if you were that version of yourself now!!

The image of the battle between dark and light (with light always winning) reminds me of this Vernon Howard mojo from The Power of Your Supermind:It is a mistake for anyone to think he has lived too long in his old, unsatisfactory ways to make the great change. If you switch on the light in a dark room, it makes no difference how long it was dark because the light will still shine. Be teachable. That is the whole secret.”

So, here’s to facing our fears head on, flipping on the light switch and acting like the masters we are.


“Imagine two lawyers in a courtroom inside your head. One is arguing for your possibilities and you achieving your goals. The other is arguing for your limits and why you don’t deserve what you want. Who will win? The lawyer whom you pay the most. The way you pay these lawyers,however, is not with money; it is with your attention.”

This is an awesome tweak to the popular two wolves story Cohen talks about in the book and that we shared in our Note on Marci Schimoff’s Happy for No Reason: “One evening a Cherokee elder told his grandson about the battle that goes on inside of people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between the two ‘wolves’ that live inside us all. One is Unhappiness. It is fear, worry,anger, jealousy, sorrow, self-pity, resentment, and inferiority. The other is Happiness. It is joy, love, hope, serenity, kindness, generosity, truth, and compassion.’

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, ‘Which wolf wins?’ The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.'”

So, what are you focusing on?

Pay attention!


“The secret of genius is focus. If you can laser your attention on any subject or project, it will reveal its blueprint to you. George Washington Carver discovered 325 uses for the peanut and 100 for the sweet potato! Great geniuses are powerful focusers. Many have been called eccentric or insane because they put aside worldly concerns for the sake of their music, art, architecture,drama, inventing, or writing. But they are the individuals who change the world, while those with scattered attention wade through mediocre lives. Geniuses don’t fritter their precious minds on mass trends. They create the trends that alter the masses.”

Focus. Focus. Focus.

As Cohen tells us, it’s the secret of genius.

We know scientifically that the more energy we put into a given domain, the more our brains will become wired toward mastery in that area. The process is called “myelination” and we talk about it in the Note on The Talent Code.

It really isn’t that complicated. If we want to truly master something, we’ve gotta be willing to quit fragmenting our energy and FOCUS.

As Seneca tells us (see Notes on Letters from a Stoic), “To be everywhere is to be nowhere.

While the 20th century renaissance man/genius Walter Russell tells us: “The thinking of creative and successful men is never exerted in any direction other than that intended. That is why great men produce such a prodigious amount of work, seemingly without effort and without fatigue. The amount of work such men leave to posterity is amazing.”

So, what’s worthy of YOUR focus?

(Personally: I’m committed to using every day as another opportunity to become wiser and more in integrity with my values as I study, embody and share all this wisdom! I’m a few full-time years in and I’m excited to see how it all unfolds in the years and decades ahead! 🙂


“Money, fame, a hard body, and first prizes are not healthy goals to pursue for their own sake. If you do, you doom yourself before you begin. You are building your house on sand, and when the first rain comes, you had better own a Speedo. Instead, allow these rewards to show up as by-products of following your spirit. Build your business or body because you enjoy doing it. Sing for your love of the song. Compete for the sake of honing your skills. What you do may look the same as the actions of those clamoring for approval, but the reason you do it and the way you feel as you proceed will be radically different. You will proceed from wholeness rather than inadequacy, and that will make all the difference.”

Love it.

We’ve been talking about this whole “external rewards as by-products of living an authentically awesome life” dealio quite a bit in Volume II. It’s a HUGE idea.

We know philosophically and scientifically that it makes a LOT more sense to go after personal mastery and integrity than to chase the bling.

As Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck puts it in her awesome book Mindset: “The growth-minded athletes, CEOs, musicians, or scientists all loved what they did, whereas many of the fixed-minded ones did not. Many growth-minded people didn’t even plan to go to the top. They got there as a result of doing what they love. It’s ironic: The top is where the fixed-mindset people hunger to be, but it’s where many growth-minded people arrive as a by- product of their enthusiasm for what they do. This point is also crucial. In the fixed-mindset, everything is about the outcome. If you fail—or if you’re not the best—it’s all been wasted. The growth mindset allows people to value what they’re doing regardless of the outcome.”

So, what makes you come alive?

Follow your spirit and let the external rewards come as by-products, yo.


“Let’s get one fact straight right now: You will never, never, never, ever, ever, ever, never, ever,never, ever, never, ever, never, never, never, ever, ever, ever, never, ever, never, ever, never ever get everyone’s approval all the time. Jesus didn’t do it, nor did Gandhi or Princess Diana. Even very good people could not get everyone to like them. No one ever has and you won’t be the first. You won’t be able to get everyone to like any one thing you do, and you won’t get any one person to like everything you do. So give up your quest for universal admiration right now; it is never-ending, infinitely frustrating, and it sucks. If you are ever going to receive the approval you seek,it is going to have to come from you.”

I think Cohen feels pretty strongly about that. 🙂

Newsflash: We’re never going to please everyone all the time. (And we won’t get any one person to like everything we do 🙂

So, let’s start by approving of OURSELVES as we drop the insane need for universal admiration!


“The most important boundary you can set is the time to nourish your spirit. The few minutes a day you take to feed your soul is your strongest investment in your happiness. Do whatever it takes to inspire yourself and stay in a creative consciousness. Choose a time each day to connect with your inner being and do not compromise it. Consider it nonnegotiable. People who truly love you will understand and support you to do it. Anyone who chastises you for your self-care practice or demands your attention instead of it is clearly out of tune with your destiny and should be released to find theirs.”

This is another *huge* Idea.

I love the way Joseph Campbell puts it in The Power of Myth: “This is an absolute necessity for anybody today. You must have a room, or a certain hour or so a day, where you don’t know what was in the newspapers this morning, you don’t know who your friends are, you don’t know what you owe anybody, you don’t know what anybody owes you. This is a place where you can simply experience and bring forth what you are and what you might be. This is the place of creative incubation. At first you might find that nothing happens there. But if you have a sacred place and use it, something eventually will happen.”

We’ve gotta nourish our spirit!

Are you?


“At the end of an introductory surfing class I took, the teacher left us with a brilliant motto to remember: “The best surfer is the one having the most fun.” The same rule applies to the art of surfing through life. You have been taught that the most successful person is the one with the most money, sex appeal, prestige, power, skill, strength, or speed. But the most successful person is the one having the most fun. The only true measure of success is happiness.”

“The only thing you can’t afford to postpone is joy.”

~ Alan Cohen

“The only true measure of success is happiness.”

Amen to that.

Reminds me of Tal Ben-Shahar’s description of “the ultimate currency” in his fantastic book Happier : “A human being, like a business, makes profits and suffers losses. For a human being, however, the ultimate currency is not money, nor is it any external measure, such as fame, fortune, or power. The ultimate currency for a human being is happiness.”

Think about it.

Our ultimate currency is happiness. The only reason we do what we do is because we think it will make us happier. Unfortunately, a lot of the things we *think* will make us happier simply won’t. They may provide fleeting moments of pleasure, but there’s a big difference between the buzz of drinking a beer or watching a football game and the consistent, underlying enthusiasm and joy we feel when we trust ourselves and align our lives with the fundamentals of Optimal Living.

So, here’s to having fun unsucking our lives and rockin’ this precious hero’s journey of ours!


“The only precious stone left to mine within the hearts of humanity is to nurture the ability to see the Truth in a world where we have lost the sight of that in many ways”

–Vincent Wambua


About the Author of “Why Your Life Sucks”



Alan H. Cohen is the author of 18 popular inspirational titles, including The Dragon Doesn’t Lives Here Anymore and Dare to be Yourself. A frequent guest on television and radio, he conducts life mastery seminars in Hawaii and on- line, and is an acclaimed keynote speaker for educational, health, church, and corporate groups. He lives on Maui, Hawaii. Visit http://www.alancohen.com to learn more. (from Amazon)

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Vincent Wambua is a lover of wisdom (aka a “Philosopher”) and a passionate student of life who’s committed to inspiring and empowering millions of people to live their greatest lives as he studies, embodies and shares the universal truths of optimal living. He harts his job.


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IN CHARGE: Finding The Leader Within You By Dr. Myles Munroe (Part II)

It’s another enigmatic start off as we step in the sober soils and uncharted mines of the new year. A year of outwitting resolutions and charging towards the pivotal lens of rational actions and decisions, an embrace of change and  revolutionary standpoints.  

A new year is always an opportunity to make amends with unfulfilled destiny and a new chance to pick on the baton…bury the past, and move into a new future. Many questions still hang around the atmosphere of change. To take charge, however, demands rephrasing the queries which have exhausted our consciousness..to banish some of those…to reprogram and perhaps to craft a new questionnaire all together. I believe that it’s the right questions that we ask that creates a new sense of being, a new trail, a new perspective, a new dimension and ultimately, a new realm. 

It was in “Alice In Wonderland” when Alice was wandering around this “thicket” when she encountered the striped Cheshire cat and she asked the cat, “How do I get out of here…and which way should I go?” and the Cheshire cat asked her, “Well, where are you going?”…and Alice responded, “Well, I don’t know!” The Cheshire cat responds to Alice saying, “Then it doesn’t really matter what path you take 🙂 The moral lesson in this brief recap is that we need to carve a trail if we really thirst and hunger for change within us in this new year.

Today I’ll share part II of the simple practical nuggets from Myles Monroe gem “In Charge” (If you missed part I check it out Here”)

“One of the greatest lessons I have learned in life is never aspire to attain or be jealous of another person’s position or achieve-ment in life until I know the price that person paid to get there”

~Dr. Myles Munroe

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  1. Why Lead?
  2. This is My Spot: Go Find Yours!
  3. Jockeying for Positions
  4. It’s Greek to me: Out with Old Ideas
  5. Check the Reservations: Your name is on the Roll!
  6. Leaders are Made Not Born: Self Discovery is the Main Ingredient
  7. Prepare: The Tool Box of A Leader
  8. Train: Who Will come after you?

Before I highlight today’s keynote ideas, I would like to summarize Myles Monroe philosophical tenets in this entire book. First, he points out that every individual was born to become a leader. Monroe’s conviction is that everyone has a leader trapped on the inside. He uses the term “trapped” because most people haven’t discovered their true self. And so even  though they have a leader trapped within them, whether that leader emerges and becomes activated..and fulfills its assignment on earth, depends on the environment that they place themselves in; the information that they expose themselves to; and their ability to activate themselves by that information. Myles adds that you were born to lead but you must become a leader. Myles further affirms that you were created to lead in an area of gifting.

I know that this becomes intricate for people to comprehend because most of us aren’t sure what gift we have. Others become transfixed especially in instances where they have 4 or 5 of those. Well, at least I’m sure no one came to earth empty. Everyone of us came to earth with something. And that rare commodity it’s something that humans need. In other words, you were send to earth to serve your gift to humanity…and when you discover your gift, that produces your value. Lastly, Myles points out that authentic leadership is self discovery. (Check out the flesh of those philosophical pillars Here”)

We checked out Idea 1 &2 in part I (check out our collection Here”). Let’s jump straight in to Idea III.

IDEA 3: Jockeying for Positions

  • The Price- In this tenet, Myles points out that Leadership positions demands a price–the sparkling jewel– that makes those positions worth attention, the money and the prestige that comes along as by-products of acquiring them. To quote him, he highlights that, All true success demands a cost, and all great leaders have a story…the price of greatness is the price of the cost!” In rather a serious note, Myles confides that most people may observe your moves and trends and deliberately envy you without a second thought of the price you have to pay or the dire cost that you have to undergo to climb the ladder and be where you are today. 

“Leaders are known not by the medals in their chests but by the scars in their backs”

~Dr. Myles Munroe

  • Absolute Preparedness- Myles asserts that leadership requires preparation…and that the preparation is part of the cost. You have to prepare yourself for that which is prepared for you. 

That is deep!

If you look at leaders throughout history, they had to go through a process to accomplish greatness. Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther Jr., were both born for greatness. But each had to pay a price. Like the princes and the princesses who will grow up in the king’s household and will inherit the kingdom, they had to be trained for leadership. Ultimately, each of them paid with their lives; each was assassinated for their causes. 

Now back to you. For you to get to your leadership spot, you too, have to prepare and pay the price, as Jesus taught. It is going to cost you. Just settle down, get ready to pay the price. No one will hand it over to you. 

  • To what extend are you willing to endure through aiming to win the packet of gold?

That question is an understatement. To effectively answer this question, Myles points out that you have have to pay with your life, well, yes –if that’s the catch! Not necessarily that we die, though there well be things in your life worth dying for, but that we serve to the world our gifts and that we are prepared to pay the price. Leaders like Abe Lincoln and Martin Luther King Jr. ultimately did pay with their lives, as did many of the early Christians. 

The day before his death, Martin Luther King Jr. talked about the cup (mentioned in Part I Here”). He mentioned an earlier attack on his life when a deranged woman stabbed him, and he marveled at all he had been able to accomplish since he survived that threat. He talked about the threats that were still swirling in the air that day and some of the precautions that had been taken. Yet he chose to show up in Memphis an deliver a rousing speech on April 3, 1968, prepared to march for freedom the next day. 

Nearing the conclusion of that speech, he said that although he didn’t know what would happen to him with all the threats in his life, it didn’t matter to him. Even though he wanted to live along life, he’d ‘been to the mountaintop” and wasn’t concerned about longevity now. “I just want to do God’s will,” he said. 

The rest of that final speech, about seeing the promised land, is better known, but the main point is that he talked about  serving up his gift, and like Jesus, his life as ransom. 

Gandhi, the model for non violent protest that King used so effectively, had spoken of the cup as well. “There are many causes that I am prepared for but no causes that i am prepared to kill for.” He was aware of the price. 

To trend on several accomplishments the year 2015, there are many instances that I had to leave social media, my friends and even my family behind…only to find out that when you’re living a life according to destiny, it’s a single file…there’s enough room just for you. It comes a point when reality dawns on you that you may indeed need to cut off some indulgences which are so nice and pleasurable, to do things which are important. 

Perhaps your cup will merely be completing that graduate degree to teach at an urban college, practice medicine in Appalachia, or fight AIDS in Africa. May be it may require giving up a high salary  to enter the ministry or care for a dying patient. Maybe it will merely be to get up an hour earlier to give someone a ride to work or take a meal to a sick person. 

  • The price to serve- Back to part I when the Zebedee sons had confronted Jesus with their mother requesting for leadership positions. In response, Jesus said to them, “to sit at my right or left is not mine to give. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my father.”

Myles coins an intriguing translation of this response. Jesus was simply saying to them that, “Look..I can’t answer those prayers…these positions I cannot grant…There is a spot in God’s kingdom that is designed just for you. It is a leadership position that no one else can get it. They can’t even pray for it…my father has already predetermined your spot!” 

Jesus affirmed that you cannot ask for leadership positions. There are positions that you were born to be in…designed by your Father* (the term Father here is translated from the Greek term πατήρ, πατρός, ὁ to mean *source*).

In summary, everyone has a position that is designed for them. Let me further quote Jesus, he said “These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared.” In other words,your leadership position belongs to you..no once can take your place!

How sweet! 🙂

That relieved me of any jealousy or competition. The only key thing to do now is to focus, for your position belongs to you and no one can take your place!

The main point in this tenet is what transpired after Jesus concluded encounter with the Zebedee family (check Mathew 20:24). When the rest 10 disciples learnt what went down with James, John and their mother, they were angry, but not because those two guys went ahead of them, but because they didn’t think to ask first. It is called jockeying for positions.  

Jesus decided to have a leadership seminar right then. He called them together, and the seminar went like this, “Come, come…You know the leaders of this world. They like to Lord it over people. Control people. They like to oppress people. Exercise authority over people. But it shall not be so with you,” He said. Instead, whosoever wants to become great amongst you must be your servant.Whoever wants to be first must be your slave. 

A translation of what Jesus is saying to them is this: “The rulers of this world, in their desire to be leaders, love to lord it over people, and use them as benefactors..to rule over them and lord over them.” The term “Lord” means “Owner”. In other words, the rulers of this world like to believe that they own people. Jesus was simply saying that such approach is not leadership (but dictatorship).

Next verse. “Whosoever wants to be great,…(or) whoever (anyone) who wants to be great..(I can’t believe he said that 🙂 What he does is that he opens up the leadership potential to whosoever. The most interesting thing in this chapter (Mathew 20) is that Jesus dis not rebuke the Zebedee sons for desiring to be great.He actually did the opposite, he explained to them how to achieve it! (Did you ever noticed that!? Well, now you do 😉 So he knows what you want, but he is telling you this : don’t do it the way of the system. You don’t become great by oppressing people…degrading people..de-valuing them and using them to benefit yourself.

He says that here is how to become a leader: you must become the servant over all men. Now, that was a contradiction to the Roman philosophy which affirmed that “they are leaders because people serve them.He was literally saying to them that an authentic leader is measured by the number of people they serve…and the more people you serve, greater you are he says. But He doesn’t mean for you to become an authentic leader you have to become a slave, or to become a subservient to humanity like a door mat.  The term he uses is “dulos” to equate to the term “servant” which literally means that, “I distribute myself to humanity…I serve my gift to the world.” That’s leadership. You become great when you find the gift that you have…born with…inherent in your life…and you decide to serve it to humanity.

Jesus Christ, who I consider to be the greatest leader that ever lived. Of course history has proven that. His legacy is 2000 years old and he is still an enigma in society. It seems as if the world is always intrigued by this figure which seems bigger than history. I mean, why would a man born in a little village and brought up in a minute village called Nazareth, who never left his home country, become so influential that History is measured by his death and his life? They actually measure B.C and A.D (Before Christ and After Christ). I’ve already answered you that question. Jesus served his gift so well that he can never be erased from history. Even though he was born in a lowly or “poor” background or culture as you would call it, he was so powerful and so strong in his exercise of himself that he has left a print on humanity that can never be erased.

Have you discovered your treasure? Mine your gift. I need to read your books, listen your melody music and watch your screen casts.

Take charge of the drivers wheel and navigate the path circumspectly. See you there 🙂


“The only precious stone left to mine within the hearts of humanity is to nurture the ability to see the Truth in a world where we have lost the sight of that in many ways”

–Vincent Wambua


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will you be there

In a wild world and hazy emotional havoc,

New anticipated promissory anecdotes were crafted from Nairobi down to Bangkok

The beauty and unfolding self paints a cheerful face,

Interwoven jubilant colors all over the place,

But undoubtedly every element is undergoing a tough transition,

Every will and desire is gradually showcasing unfriendly audition,

Growth is inevitable,

Human deepest needs, and transformation- unquestionable,

Your innate transposing power ,

Extends a golden cast flower,

Nothing else matters if this ends in an edge of despair,

Scaffolding any adversity beyond such a snare,

2015 remains the year we scrapped off such fears,

A new path to drill it afresh and no one interferes,

No need to seek validation,

Greatness transcends any deflation or frustration,

“So this implies that the war is still ON?”

Huh, the contest is already won!

In the midst of painful glare,

And dusty crimson flair–

Will you be there? Continue reading

IN CHARGE: Finding The Leader Within You By Dr. Myles Munroe (Part I)

As the eve of the New Year draws near, I feel super generous, thrilled and excited to share mind blowing success skills that I picked from one of my best read this year :In Charge. Well, life springs and blossoms when you stride in the drivers seat and take charge of both immeasurable and minute aspects that touch on your progress!  This book has simple practical ideas on how you can effectively take charge of your Life and unearth the leader within you. Enjoy!

“Of all the challenges our 21st Century World must confront such as terrorism, wars, epidemics, global warming and corporate corruption, the greatest challenge is finding effective leaders”

~Dr. Myles Munroe

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  1. Why Lead?
  2. This is My Spot: Go Find Yours!
  3. Jockeying for Positions
  4. It’s Greek to me: Out with Old Ideas
  5. Check the Reservations: Your name is on the Roll!
  6. Leaders are Made Not Born: Self Discovery is the Main Ingredient
  7. Prepare: The Tool Box of A Leader
  8. Train: Who Will come after you?

Dr. Myles Munroe introduces the reader into a colonial dimension which he was forced down his throat to absorb and adore during his teenage days in Nassau, Bahamas, at his little village of Bain’s Town. The same widespread notion of “Born to serve, not to lead” and “destined by providence to be a slave” was also spread in other territories subdued by the queen of England at the time. He winds up the Introduction part by pointing out that  to emerge an enigma, he had to face life and grapple with the internal need to find significance, which partly involved erasing past reinforced perceptions of his authentic self.

According to Dr. Myles, true leadership does not maintain followers but produces leaders. 

How’d you like to discover the leader within you? (Me, too!)

Well, you’re in luck.

We have Myles Munroe—one of the world’s leading life strategist who who is a global motivational speaker and best selling author—as our guide. (Munroe also wrote The Power of  Vision and The power of character In Leadership among other 58 gold mines that you can check into. Check out our Notes on some of those as well.)

Although the title of this book quotes on leadership and takes a deeper look to its connection with Christianity, often drawing wide references from the bible and trapping whales from the ocean of philosophy and other related disciplines, I think it’s perfect for everyone who desires to unearth the divine greatness within them—which is really all of us, eh? As a teacher, I love applying the wisdom to my arena and I imagine you will as well. (If you like this Note, I think you’ll dig the book. Get a copy “Here”

As is the case with all great books, this one is packed with Big Ideas. I’m excited to share a few of my favorites so let’s jump straight in!

(P.S. As you may have noticed by now, I love Leadership and Life Strategy books. Check out our growing collection “here” )


“It is not that we do not have people occupying offices, of leadership offices in our world. We have many leaders today- but, sadly, not much leadership”

~ Myles Munroe

Throughout the book, Dr Myles Munroe paints that everyone has leadership potential and hence born to lead. “Trapped within you is a hidden Leader…wired for you to lead…not to dominate people but to subdue in an area of gifting,” he asserts.In this regard, Myles highlights that everyone was born with a precious gem that the world needs. Myles carefully carves a clear reason that everyone should seek this “spot.” He further adds that a void of leadership exists all over the world in both industrialized and developing nations. People wonder where they can find strong leaders they can trust.

Myles summarizes the key note tenets in 6 philosophical phrases which he refers to as “servant leadership philosophical pillars”

  1. Every Human Being was created to lead:Your desire and the predisposition to lead is inborn
  2. Every human possesses leadership potential:You have the ability to lead in an area of gifting
  3. Trapped In Every Follower is a hidden Leader: If you accept false ideas about who can or cannot become a leader, it can smother your potential
  4. Though everyone was born to Lead, most will die as followers: If you do not identify and tap into your giftness, it will be wasted buried with you.
  5. Leadership is your History and destiny: You were created to be a leader and designed to fulfill your assignment.
  6. The world needs your Leadership: You exist to meet a specific need on earth that no one else can meet.


Before I touch on this, I would like to point out that Myles constantly affirms that leadership is inherent. To quote him, he says, “Leadership is Predetermined, not preference…leadership is not something you do, it is something you are…you cannot retire from it, just like a bird which obviously cannot retire from flight.”

Myles further quotes that leadership is a prepared position…it demands a price..and that it is inherent (it is not given to you by request or  by prayer, you are born with it!)

To highlight this, Jesus quotes a Biblical reference from Mathew 20. During his training of his leaders who were all students of his, (Note: the term “student” is the word we translate as “disciple”…a Greek word that means “learner”) I’m now obliged to define Jesus Christ as “trainer of humanity” since he had a class of 12 students 🙂 Matthew 20 points out that one day He was having a discussion with the 12. Two of those 12 had a desire which is very common among all humans, they wanted to be great! (can I use the term they wanted to “feel important!”)

The desire for greatness is common in all humans, even though most of them deny it! As a matter of fact, we think, that if we desire to be great, we are not humble. I beg to disagree. If you don’t wanna be great, something is terribly wrong with you. The desire of the Human, to feel important and to do something significant is VERY NORMAL..AND SHOULD BE ENCOURAGED!!! Can I put it this way, “Our culture makes us feel guilty about desiring greatness” So, even though there is a desire within us to become great, there is an external pressure to suppress it..and so you and I are walking in a contradiction- of our own selves! And hence we live a lie. And that lie says, “I don’t wanna be great…I don’t wanna become anything significant” This is a lie! Every human being desires to feel important, and they want to do something valuable and they want to feel that they are significant. Am I Right? Now, if you say no to that you’re lying to me!!

Back to Matthew 20. So 2 of his students were very honest. They decided to let him know that they wanted to become great. They wanted to be leaders. So, they sent their mother to talk to him.

“Then the mother of Zebedee sons came to Jesus with her sons, and kneeling down, asked a favor of him”

~Matthew 20:20

Perhaps they sent their mother for different reasons or maybe their mother initiated it (you know mothers like to look out for their children 😉 ) But the story actually opens up where the mother of the Zebedee sons, James and John approaches Jesus and asks him a question, “When you come into your kingdom (when you establish your government),Grant that one of these two sons of mine may sit at your right and the other at your left.” (In other Words, Look, I want my two sons to be your Vice Presidents! (Matthew 20:21)

In other words she was seeking for positions of power and leadership for her sons, that was the request.

Jesus more or less responded “You don’t Know what you are asking…Can your sons drink the cup that I am going to drink?” The term “cup” here is an Hebrew idiom, a symbol for “price” or “cost”. The question Jesus used to respond to her was loaded. It could have 3 possible interpretations.

  1. You do not know what you are saying
  2. What you are asking for is not fair for others
  3. What you are asking for, I really cannot give you.

All of these could be part of the answer, but the third one is more likely the principal one. The Bible says that He turned to the sons, which implies that, they were right there, Standing behind him or side or perhaps Behind their mother waiting her to front for them. That’s my impression. Now, After this question, when you read the next verse, the mother didn’t answer, the two brothers answered! When Jesus said, “can you drink the cup that I am going to drink, the two brothers said, “Yes we can!!”Sounds like most of us, speaking without thinking. 

Jesus, hence responded to them, “You will indeed drink from my cup, but to sit at my right or left is not mine to give. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my father.”

Few aspects to note:

  1. First of all you (Mother of the two) do not understand that what you are asking you don’t get it this way…the way you are trying to do this is not the way you are supposed to go about it. In other words, I understand the system…I can accept the fact that you are trying to do it, but this is not going to work. It never works!
  2. Jesus didn’t say that you will drink my cup, because no one can drink your cup. 
  3. His cup was death on the cross to save humanity. In other words, he was telling her that, “I didn’t get where I am because I preferred to be there, I got where I am because I paid a price. Now, if you study the story of Both James and John, they both died horribly. James was slain in half with a saw and John was boiled in hot Oil and then he was abandoned with his skin off his body in an island called Patmos. They indeed suffered, but that not my point. 
  4. Jesus used the opportunity to teach the entire class a lesson. He turned to the 12 and said, “to sit at my right or left is not mine to give. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my father.”

The 4th point was the main focal point of the entire blog. Jesus is telling us that leadership positions cannot be prayed for. You cannot ask God for leadership positions. In other words, There are some requests or prayers that Jesus cannot answer, like granting leadership positions. James and John wanted positions of leadership and influence. Jesus affirmed that you cannot ask for leadership positions. There are positions that you were born to be in…designed by your Father* (the term Father here is translated from the Greek term πατήρ, πατρός, ὁ to mean *source*).

In summary, everyone has a position that is designed for them. Let me further quote Jesus, he said These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared.” In other words, your leadership position belongs to you..no once can take your place!

When I discovered this I became very comfortable in my skin 🙂 You see, that why I have no competition. You cannot compete  with a space or position that doesn’t exist anywhere else. Hence, it doesn’t make sense to be a jealous of a true leader because you  can never be them nor fit in their “spot” This set me free from any kind of competition, jealousy and pride because where I am, I belong in the spot, and you too belong to yours. Don’t try my spot, this was build just for me. To quote Jesus..it was “prepared for me”.

It is time to seek within you and locate your spot. Whether it’s within Music arena (like Beyonce Knowles)  , marathon (Like  Usain Bolt) , writing literary pieces (like William Shakespeare) or acting (Like Lupita Nyong’o) , or Pursuing Business endeavors like Donald Trump and so forth. Be honest with yourself. I’m sure you now have an Idea of what it is all about. Seek it and Pursue it…then perfect it all the way to excellence.

(To be continued. Check out the rest of the top notch Ideas Soon)

If you liked this post you may also like my top Ten 2015 posts:

  1. “The Excellence Manifesto”
  2. “The Lab of Life”
  9. “The New Toughness Training for Sports” By James E. Loehr”
  10. “NO LIMITS: THE WILL TO SUCCEED” By Michael Phelps & Alan Abrahamson


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 Merry Christmas World and Prosperous Happy New Year 2016…and Lets Remember to share the little within our disposal with the less fortunate.



5 ways to unearth the missing link in success


I’m aware that this is the festive month, not in its entirety but, for the most part. With Christmas chorals painting color all around me, I can almost bet that adventure is the second mother nature as well. It’s time to take  break from our busy schedules and create time be with our own selves, our families and our Father* (the term Father here is translated from the Greek term πατήρ, πατρός, ὁ to mean *source*).

5 ways to unearth the missing link in success

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Few weeks slipped off my fingers but I’m back, hope you’re doing great and awesome as I am. On my short unannounced break, I had pretty awesome time having much A Do about Everything. I laid my hands on vast gems and distilled pure glistering content which I’m about to share with you today and presiding few weeks towards the eve of the new year.   

On 23rd September I made a pledge to extend the thread “5 WAYS TO UNEARTH THE MISSING KEY TO SUCCESS.” Today I partly fulfill that pledge. I’ll transform to a philosophical candidate for a minute and then wide up with todays’ nuggets. 


Last week I had a great time squeezing the evening breeze and perusing  James Stockdale’s book Courage Under FireIn this Artwork, James Stockdale highlights a comprehensive analysis of Epictetus (a Greek Stoic philosopher). In part, He says:

“Epictetus once gave a lecture to his faculty complaining about the common tendency of new teachers to slight the stark realism of Stoicism’s challenges in favor of giving the students an uplifting, rosy picture of how they could meet the harsh requirements of the good life painlessly.
Epictetus said: ‘Men, the lecture-room of the philosopher is a hospital; students ought not to walk out of it in pleasure, but in pain.’ If Epictetus’s lecture room was a hospital, my prison was a laboratory—a laboratory of human behavior. I chose to test his postulates against the demanding real-life challenges of my laboratory. And as you can tell, I think he passed with flying colors.”

Imagine that.

A lecture room more like a hospital than a spa—with teachers ushering their students out in pain rather than relaxed pleasure.

It seems the tendency to want to delude ourselves into thinking it’s all sunshine and rainbows is not a new thing. Hah.

The reality is we often need to perform a sort of surgery on ourselves. As Seneca tells us, it’s important to “Be harsh with yourself at times.”

We need to re-shape our minds and bodies and behaviors. And, obviously, that’s often painful. Reminds me of Jim Rohn who tells us we all need to pay the price. The question is, will we pay it in ounces or in tons?

Rohn on The Five Major Pieces to the Life Puzzle puts it this way: “We all say that we want to succeed, but sooner or later our level of activity must equal our level of intent. Talking about achievement is one thing; making it happen is something altogether different.

Some people seem to take more joy in talking about success than they do in achieving it. It is as though their ritualistic chant about someday lulls them into a false sense of security, and all the things that they should be doing and could be doing on any given day never seem to get done.

The consequences of this self-delusion have their own inevitable price. Sooner or later the day will arrive when they will look back with regret at all those things they could have done, and meant to do, but left undone. That is why we must push ourselves in the present to experience the milder pain of discipline. We will all experience one pain or the other—the pain of discipline or the pain of regret—but the difference is that the pain of discipline weighs only ounces while the pain of regret weighs tons.”

  • The Will to pay the price: The great oil billionaire, H.L. Hunt, was once asked the “secret of success.”He replied that success required two things, and 2 things ONLY. First, He said, you must know exactly what it is you want. Most people never make this decision. Second, He said you must determine the price that you will have to pay to achieve it,and then get busy paying that price.

Brian Tracy dines in this concept by asserting that success has a price. To quote him, he says: “there is an interesting point about the price of success: it must always be paid in full-and in advance. Everyone wants to be successful. Everyone wants to be healthy, happy, thin and rich.But most people are not willing to pay the price.” Are you willing to pay the price?

Think about it. Decide. Commit. Succeed.

(To be continued…)

Merry Christmas and Prosperous New year 2016 in Advance 🙂 !!


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